November 3, 2015
Have you ever had one of those weeks where you just needed a reset? Some inspiration? Some reflection?
Even though I’m having a complete blast building out my new company - The Luxury Shoe Club - on the personal side I just recently ended a year-long relationship with my boyfriend. It had been a long while coming, and I think this is part of the reason I’ve been so invested in starting the Luxury Shoe Club. I needed to build and sustain something meaningful, something I can put my heart and soul into, something that would last.
So in times like these I find it helpful to go to therapy. Of course what this really means is I went shoe shopping…
As I mentioned previously, one my best friends, Grace, is a world-renowned photographer. Luckily, she had to go to Chicago last week for a photo shoot and asked me if I wanted to come along. Of course I said yes!
Have you ever noticed how just a change of scenery can completely change your mood and your perspective - even if it's just from one skyline to another? I forgot how much I love Chicago.
So while Grace was busy shooting photos, I was busy shopping for shoes on the Magnificent Mile. As I was trying on a beautiful pair of Jimmy Choos, I started to think about how much I have learned from my shoes over the years.
- Never force a fit
If something doesn’t feel right, chances are it probably isn’t. Just like certain shoe styles and sizes are a match for your feet, certain paths in life are a match for your goals, priorities, and values. Seek out that which fits.
- Good things take time to break in
Although you should always pick the right fit, some shoes have to be broken in regardless of the shape or size of the foot wearing them. Does it hurt at little at first? Yes. Is it worth it to have a beautiful and eventually comfortable pair of shoes? Absolutely. The same goes for life - a lot of big changes are difficult to adjust to at first, but with time, the benefits of such changes always outweigh the initial discomfort.
- Support is a must
You would never buy a shoe that was lacking support. The same goes for life. It is important to have a strong support system of friends and family; one where you can depend on your support group just as much as they can depend on you. It’s important to set goals and strive for them, but without a support network, your chances of making it and enjoying the journey are pretty low.
- The view from high up is always better
Standing in your favorite pair of heels can bring on the instant sensation of confidence, power and pride. However, you don’t need to be in your 5” stilettos to reap the same benefits. All you really need for that high up view is to stand strong. How you present yourself physically is a reflection of mindset, and when you stand tall and determined, your actions, your presence and your potential are limitless.
- Variety keeps you on your toes
Just like there are all kinds of shoes to wear, having variety is a key ingredient for a fulfilling and well-rounded life. It is also a great reminder that change is not necessarily a bad thing, but an essential part needed to open new pathways and opportunities you might never have had.
- A classic never goes out of style
While color and design are fun and energetic, you can never go wrong with your classic pair. They’re always a go-to and dependable in any situation. It’s the same for your life, whether it’s a person, a place or even a pet, having something to fall back on matters.
- You get what you pay for
Cheap things don’t last. Don’t skimp out on quality. If it’s worth it, make the investment. Whether you’re working towards a promotion or you’re aiming to be a better mother/daughter/friend/wife, you’ll only reap benefits to the extent of your labor. Cutting corners never puts a person ahead.
- If you don’t take care of things, they eventually fall apart
Whether it’s the sole of your shoe or your personal relationships, taking care of things you value is important. Pay attention to what matters. Just like bad news doesn’t get better with time, if you don’t address little problems up front, they quickly turn into big problems, many unfixable.
- Not all beauty is at eye level
There’s this stigma that if you have to look down at something, it must not be as valuable. But hey - we look down at our shoes all the time and we know how valuable those are. Don’t forget to change your perspective and focus regularly. There’s a lot to see at eye level, and there’s even more to see elsewhere. One-track minds often miss the bigger picture.
- The person chooses the shoe
Probably the most important lesson I have learned from shoes - we choose our own identity. It’s not about what circumstances we are born into, what expectations we are told to fulfill, what predetermined fate someone wants us to believe is ours. It’s about our own personal will, choices, and ambition. You determine the path your life will take. You choose your shoes, they don’t choose you.
So in thinking about all that has happened recently, and then realizing how much is beyond the scope of one boyfriend, one breakup, I think I’m finding peace with the situation.
Even though all my friends in Chicago were disappointed the Cubs didn’t make it to the World Series this year, the good news is that just like in sports as in life, everybody gets a chance to reset and start over.
This week has really helped me change my outlook. I’m returning home with a renewed spirit (along with a brand new pair of Jimmy Choos of course).
The Shoe Diva* See more of my inspirations at https://www.pinterest.com/luxuryshoeclub/inspirations/